Updated: Feb 15, 2019
Five Signs Your Marriage Is Over
Once upon a time you were happy. You were in love. You were able to clearly see a future where you and the love of your life lived happily ever after. Now you are at point in your relationship where you find yourself living with a stranger. Who is this person who promised to love and cherish you until the end of time?
It’s unfortunate, but, 60 percent of all marriages end in divorce. Sixty.Percent. Clearly you are not alone and you should feel no shame about ending your marriage. How do you truly know when it is time to cut your loses and move on with your life?
Here are five ways to know it may be time to file for divorce
1. Me Me Me Me Me
There is no “I” in team but there is an “m” and “e” and you are ok with that. Over time you have gone from desiring to build a life together to being solely concerned with your own well-being. In a healthy relationship, a couple works as a team on issues such as parenting, running a household and supporting one another. As a marriage nears dissolution, one, or both partners inch away from team building and closer towards self-sufficiency.
2. You feel alone even when you are together
At one time, you were each the center of one another’s world. You felt as though you mattered. Now, even when you are sharing the same space, you feel as though you are not only alone, but, you often feel lonely.
3. You are having sex, just not with each other
Although infidelity does not have to mean the end of a marriage, sexual relations with persons outside of the marriage are a good sign that divorce could be on the horizon. Not only is this behavior disrespectful to your relationship, but, it is disrespectful your body. When your partner sleeps with another person and then returns to the marital bed, returning to that bed is also the object of the affair and everyone s/he has ever slept with. If you are going to sleep with that many people, you may as well be single and enjoy it.
4. Communication is key, but the locks have been changed
You don’t talk the way you used to talk. Everything you say has the potential to turn into an argument, so much so that you are figuratively walking on eggshells to avoid the fallout. When asking about the weather turns into WWIII, it is a clear indication that you have lost the ability, and the desire, to communicate in a healthy manner. Healthy, productive, communication is necessary for a healthy relationship. Absent this key component, it may be time to move on.
5. You find reasons not to come home
Suddenly, your social calendar takes on renewed importance and you would rather be anyplace than at home with your spouse. When one or both partners is unwilling to spend time together creating intimacy healthy marriages need, it is a clear sign the marriage is in jeopardy.
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